Question: “I have a friend who is struggling with his faith because of the following question. If you have any ideas, that would be great!
“God is strongly against homosexuality. (This friend has very strong ties with that community, including a little personal experience). Why would God so strongly condemn something that those experiencing it seem helpless to control? One of his friends said it this way (his friend is a homosexual): Why would anyone in their right mind choose homosexuality?”
Reply: Yes, God is strongly opposed to homosexuality, according to such texts of Scripture as: “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination” (Leviticus 20:13; 18:22) And, “Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves…For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections…And Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned, in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly…And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind…” (Romans 1:24-28)
A number of other texts also bear out this truth. The tragedy we see in these texts is that of unrepentance, defiance, self-justification. God will not force His will upon the unwilling.
However, God does not condemn the homosexual. He condemns the “sin” of homosexuality. You asked why God would so strongly condemn something that those experiencing it seem helpless to control.
Mankind has been helpless to control “sin” period since Adam and Eve chose to “disobey” in the Garden of Eden. It is only by the grace of God, (which, by the way, is divine strength and fortitude), that any of us are able to overcome any kind of sin. Homosexuality is simply “sin.” It is when we reclassify it as “an acceptable alternative lifestyle,” or “a genetic disorder,” or a “minority status” like that of race and gender, etc., that we take it out of the redemptive hand of our Savior. You see, Jesus did not come to save his people from these things. Jesus came to “save His people from their sins.” “Only acknowledge thine iniquity (sin),” says God in Jeremiah 3, “and I will heal your backsliding.”
Your friends must be able to acknowledge to themselves as well as to God that they are struggling with a “sin” issue. Then, and only then, does God’s grace, His divine strength and power, become sufficient. (2 Corinthians 12:9) “For my strength is made perfect in [your] weakness.” The sin-sick homosexual must acknowledge his weakness to overcome his “sin,” taking it to the Lord Who promises sufficient grace for him to overcome.
You asked, “Why would anyone in their right mind choose homosexuality?” This was an argument I used for years against those who tried to help me choose to leave the gay lifestyle. For I had struggled against my tendencies and temptations for years before finally giving up and just “accepting who I was born to be…”
But think about this for a moment… Why would anyone in his or her right mind choose to disobey God, “sin,” in any way? “For the wages of sin is death.” (Romans 6:23) None of us choose the nature of our temptations. And this is a point I wish to make very clear. The nature of our temptations to sin does not define who we are. It does not define our orientation. Our choices define ourselves.
Let me illustrate. I used to be a pilot in my youth. Sometimes I would be flying against a cross wind, or even into a head wind, and sometimes through a violent storm. The wind had its designs for my destination, which were contrary to the course I had charted for myself. As a pilot I had to compensate for the direction of the wind if I were to safely reach the destination of my “orientation.” My “orientation” was the destination of mychoosing, not that of the wayward wind.
Another illustration: Occasionally I find myself driving a vehicle with a bad alignment. It pulls always to the left, or always to the right. But I am driving…!! The tendency of that vehicle is to ditch itself, always. But when placed in the hands of me as driver, the orientation of the vehicle becomes that of following the straight and narrow way that leads to my destination – Home…! Eventually I am able to adjust the alignment to where it no longer wrestles against me as driver. But I have one vehicle now that can never seem to be rightly aligned. However, it still always gets me safely to my destination, because with my hand always on the wheel, I compensate for its wayward tendency.
Spiritually speaking, the devil is like the contrary wind, and our fallen human nature is like the bad alignment. Satan has designs for you, for your friends, and for me that are contrary to our own choosing – contrary to the plan that God has for us as well. With every tendency and temptation to “sin” we are faced with a choice. Do we compensate for that contrary wind in order to reach our chosen destination? Or, do we go with the wind, only to crash on some remote mountain of destruction?
Only when we choose to “go with the wind,” and choose to give in to the tendencies of our fallen natures and go with the temptations of the devil do our orientation, tendencies, and temptations become the same. The words of this song are so appropriate here. “Jesus, Savior, pilot me over life’s tempestuous sea…” Only by placing our lives into the hands of the Master Pilot can we be assured of safely reaching the destination He has planned for us – Home…! Our alignment may be set right, or we may end up with a continuous struggle. Either way, Jesus can guide us safely home.
The great apostle Paul put it this way, “But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.” Also, “I die [to self] daily.” (1 Corinthians 9:27;15:31)
“Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved,” (God dearly loves you and your homosexual friends), let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.” (2 Corinthians 7:1)
All Power to you, my friend,
“Victor J. Adamson”