Question: “When should we, and should we allow a partner into our home? Our family is struggling over this issue. Thank you.”

Reply: Dear ___:

This is a very difficult and sensitive question to deal with. In their unconditional love for me and my partners, I believe my parents erred in allowing us to stay (together) in their home. They did so many things right, but I do believe they compromised in this area.

What is the Biblical principle in this matter? I think we can find it in the 4th commandment. God said regarding the Sabbath, “In it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates…”

The principle here is that our homes are Christian homes with Christian standards. We don’t allow porno movies, smoking, drinking, drugs, orgies, wild rock music, etc. We have standards to uphold within our domicile, over which we are appointed by God as priests, heads of family, kings and queens, etc.

When homosexual relatives are visiting, I think God expects us to just lovingly and politely lay it on the line: “We love you; we accept you. But God’ s standards are honored and upheld within these walls. So we welcome you into our home, but we must ask that you refrain from sleeping together within these premises. We do not condemn you, but only ask that you respect the standards of our home while you are visiting in our home. Again, we love you and welcome you.” Something to that effect.

I hope you find this to be reasonable and helpful counsel.

All Power to you!