Regarding your question about lesbian love: In general terms, any intimate, sexual relationship outside of marriage as God ordained it in the Garden of Eden is a violation of the 7th commandment. There are not too many texts of Scripture that make distinction between the sins of men and the sins of women, for, as the old saying goes, “What is good [bad] for the goose is good [bad] for the gander.” So when we read such texts as Leviticus 18:22, “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination”, we must understand that if intimate, sexual relations between men is abominable in the sight of our holy, Creator God, then logically it is just as abominable for intimate, sexual relations to exist between women. Otherwise, our loving God is inconsistent, illogical, unreasonable, and unfair — all of which charges Satan would love to have stick.
Leviticus 20:13 is an even stronger revelation of how God feels about gay/lesbian love: “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” (These are God’s words, not mine. But can there be any doubt that God hates this sin…?)
Now, look with me at Romans 1:26,27 — “For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient, (or, becoming).”
This text clearly states that women had begun to indulge in sexual activity that was not the natural activity between man and woman, in marriage. In other words, anything and everything goes — perversion of all kinds, with women, with men, and even with animals. The text goes on to say “Likewise also the men … men with men.” The word “Likewise” indicates then “women with women.” Right?
Anyone who has the mind of Christ (Philippians 2:5) will clearly be able to discern the inappropriateness of lesbian love as well as gay love in the context of Scripture as well as in the context of nature itself.
Is idolatry by a woman OK while that of a man not?
Is the taking of the Lord’s name in vain by a woman OK while by a man not?
Is a woman’s Sabbath breaking excusable while that of a man condemned?
Is it OK for a woman to dishonor her parents while it is wrong for a man?
Is murder by a woman OK while murder by a man not?
Is it OK for a woman to steal but criminal for a man?
Is it OK for a woman to bear false witness while for a man it is perjury, and sin?
Is coveting OK for the woman but sinful for the man?
We don’t accept that kind of logic in our court system today, so why would we expect God to be so illogical in His expectations of man and woman?
Probably the best way to approach questions like this is to inquire, “Where in God’s word can we find God’s blessing/approval for this kind of behavior or activity? We know He approves of marriage between one man and one woman from Eden and from the wedding of Cana, as well as His own love language toward His people likening them to His bride, etc.
But nowhere, absolutely nowhere in the Bible can we find His blessing over intimate,sexual relations between 2 or more men, or 2 or more women, (even though some use the very weak argument of the love between Ruth and Naomi and that of David and Jonathan, in both cases of which all were married to spouses of the opposite sex and bore or sired children). On the contrary, the Biblical language quite strongly condemns it.
You must be very careful in how you approach your gay friends on this issue, because, unless they are looking for answers, they may be offended by your even broaching the subject. Sometimes God’s hands are even tied, for He cannot go where He is not invited… Therefore, He paints the word picture, “Behold, I stand at the door and knock…” He won’t just go in.
If you have a burden to approach your gay/lesbian friends on this issue, pray that God will give you an opening, an invitation, an inquiry that will open the door for you.
God bless you, and All Power to you!