First of all, I’m not sure why you would think that I am troubled… I am not troubled about gays and lesbians. I have friends of this persuasion around the country that I love very much. Though I am not troubled about them, I am troubled for them. I do have a burden for their salvation, from sin.

As an ex-gay myself, I know how I felt while in the gay lifestyle. And I know of many like me who openly stated that if homosexuality were a choice they would never have chosen it for themselves. They, and I, were convinced that we were born that way; that’s just who we were; there was nothing to do but accept it and try to have a good life. Yet, I, and many like me, was never free from guilt. In God’s Word we are informed that by very nature man knows to a great extent the difference between right and wrong. (See Romans, chapter 1)

In a love and desire for truth, I decided to search my life and the Word of God, honestly, and with an open mind, to see if I could find assurance of salvation and eternal life while hanging on to my pet sin. I could find neither. Instead, I discovered a God Who loved me in spite of my sinful life and offered me a way out. Bottom line, I accepted His plan for my life, accepted HIs grace, His divine strength, to walk away from my life of sin and to walk into newness of life with Him. He has given me a wonderful new life, with a wife and children, a loving church family, a meaningful and productive career, and hope and assurance of everlasting life.

I have peace, my friend. And I am compelled to share with others, who likewise are sin-sick, who want a new direction in life, the good news that our God is mighty to save, the whosoevers, from whatsoever, even to the uttermost.

I am not interested in debating with those who are content with their homosexuality. I am not out to persuade others against their will. But I know for a fact that there are many homosexuals, like I was, who desperately want a way out. For them I wrote my book and set up my web site.

How do I know they want a way out? Not only from knowing them personally, but from the response to my web site. Many are praising the Lord for finally being directed to a God Who loves them enough to give them newness of life. I firmly believe that a genuine conversion results in new motives, new tastes, and new tendencies; that when a person is truly born again, he can overcome every inherited and cultivated tendency to wrong. (Otherwise, God is impotent, rather than omnipotent…) And, homosexuality is very clearly defined in God’s Word as wrong, unnatural, sin, abomination. God loves the homosexual, enough that Jesus gave His life for him, too. But Jesus came to save His people from their sins, not in their sins. (See Matthew 1:21)

The more I think about it, the more I realize that, yes, there is something that troubles me about gays and lesbians: their quality of life; their short life expectancy; the pain and suffering they cause themselves, their families and friends through lives dedicated to self-gratification, self-advancement, self-glory and self-exaltation, self-abuse.

Homosexuality is focused inward rather than outward. It is not focused upon being a blessing to others, but rather serving self to the detriment of others. Homosexuality is a dead end street. It brings to an end a 6000-year line of pro-creation, of passing on life to another human being. It preys upon and depends upon the children of others (heterosexuals) to perpetuate its existence, thus continuing its legacy of inflicting heartbreak, pain, and suffering upon others. I know homosexuality well, for I was immersed in it for many years. I devastated my wife and children, parents, families and friends. As I traded in one lover for another, over and over, I hurt others in my own mad career of pleasing myself. God’s plan was for one man and one woman for life, a life of honor, and trust, and fidelity, and dignity, and productivity…

Yes, there is much that troubles me about homosexuality. From God’s Word, I know the destiny of those who fail to walk in newness of life. I am sad for them, but I respect their power of choice. And so does God. That’s why He says that to those who love not truth, He Himself will send strong delusion. (2 Thessalonians 2:10-12)

You asked: “Do you think that you are hurting gays and lesbians?”

No! Absolutely not! I am exercising my freedom of speech and imposing my beliefs upon no one. My web site is a Help Site. I am not a lobbyist, an activist, nor a politician. I am simply following the gospel commission, offering a better way to those who are seeking and desiring it.

Thank you for your inquiry. And may God bless you in accordance with your love and desire for truth!

“Victor”