Question: Some Christian homosexuals use Bible texts to support their homosexuality. One passage describes the wonderful friendship between David and Jonathan, which they say were gay. I find the idea repulsive. How do you show them that David and Jonathan were sharing a deep friendship?
Reply: David and Jonathan were not gay, contrary to popular gay opinion. They both were married and fathered children. Jonathan loved David as his own soul according to 1 Samuel 18:1-3 and 20:17, which simply means they were the very best of friends, like brothers, enough so that Jonathan was willing to die for David. Their love for each other transcended that of the love of a man for a woman, yes. (2 Samuel 1:26). But that does not equate to sexual, or erotic love. To believe so is to believe in pure speculation, based upon one’s own perverse fantasies and desires.
In 2 Samuel 1:26 David laments the loss of his friend, his “brother”, not his lover: “I am distressed for thee, my brother Jonathan: very pleasant hast thou been unto me: thy love to me was wonderful, passing the love of women.”
Note: This love was like to that of a “BROTHER”, not a “lover”. It surpassed the love of women; it was not the same as love toward a woman. This word “love” in Hebrew was used toward friends as well as in other relationships and contexts, just as our word in English.
David was so heterosexual that he married not once, but several times. He was so heterosexual that he totally lost control when he saw Bathsheba, another man’s wife. He stooped to pre-meditated murder to get her for himself. There is no indication in the Bible that David loved Jonathan in any such way.
A basic principle used for coming to a clear understanding of any subject in the Bible is to take everything found on that subject and study it all out to get the full picture, “precept upon precept…; line upon line…; here a little, and there a little.” (Isaiah 28:10,13) One cannot study the entire life of David in sincerity and truth and possibly come to a logical conclusion that he, or Jonathan, were gay.
Thanks, C___, for your great question. I hope this explanation is of some help to you.
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