Question: “My son say’s he’s gay. He was married, an academy teacher, an amazingly talented tenor soloist, has his masters degree [from a prominent Christian university], and has now quit it all saying he doesn’t believe in a God who condones murder as stated in the Bible. Therefore the Bible is not true either. Now where’s the argument for him?”

Reply: I have not found any place in the Bible where God condones murder. But I have seen where God Himself, Who is perfectly just as well as merciful, has ordered the carrying out of His judgments after much, much longsuffering (patience) toward the rebellious sinner. We do not have His perfect wisdom and understanding, and that’s why He tells us to not judge one another. But He certainly is qualified to judge, for all His judgments are righteous.

1 John 4:8 tells us that “God is love.” And we, as His children, must trust that all He does is through the heart and eyes of love. We may have many questions as to why He has executed His judgments towards some people, even races of people, but we have this assurance found in the 2nd commandment that He visits “the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the 3rd and 4th generation of them that hate [Him].”

This is why he told Abraham that his children could not inherit the land of Canaan for 400 years, (four generations), because the cup of the Amorites was not yet full, the cup of their iniquity. But after Israel came out of Egypt, the patience of the Lord had reached its limit, four generations, and He ordered Israel to destroy the entire race of the Amorites. It’s really no different than the Lake of Fire at the end of the millennium. When God acts, it is out of love and mercy, as well as perfect justice. We must trust Him in all this.

I hope that is helpful to you. But what I have found to be true in so many instances with gay people, (having been one myself for many years…), guilt will cause one to go to great lengths to justify and rationalize away his own bad behavior. The Bible refers to those who wrest the Scriptures, (wrestle with them, twist them, distort them) to their own destruction.

God’s perfect justice towards the wicked does not justify for one instant our own bad choices and behavior. We are self-deluded and deceived if we go that route. As our Creator, God knows best what is good for His children when it comes to sexual behavior as with any other issue. He’s the one that created us with the capacity to enjoy intimacy. But along with that gift came an instruction book. If the gift is abused, there will be consequences that will cause God great grief as well as the disobedient child. God takes no delight in the wages or consequences of our sins. He is not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. But the natural result of disconnecting from God, the Source of life, is ultimately the loss of that life — death.

Again, I hope my insights prove to be helpful to you and to your son.

Keep looking up…,

“Victor”