The “Bi-sexual Christian”

Question: “I am a ‘Bi-sexual Christian’. What advice do you have for me?”

Reply: First of all, we need to look at the true meaning of the label “Christian”. Attaching the word carelessly to a behavior quite often results in an oxymoron, a figure of speech that combines contradictory terms. For example, “Christian Adultery” is a contradictory label within itself, as is “Christian Pornography”, “Christian Pedophilia”, “Christian Alcoholic”, “Christian Druggie”, ad infinitum. We might as well just endorse, or sanction the term “Christian Sin”. These oxymorons are not in common use to my knowledge. However, many homosexuals do like to refer to themselves as “Gay Christians.”

Is this not an oxymoron…? Is such a label honest and credible, or plausible? We should take an honest look at the definition and meaning of the word “Christian”: a person who adheres to the teachings and example of the life of Christ. A Christian is a disciple of Christ. A disciple is one who adheres to the discipline of “the Master.” Therefore, attaching the label “Christian” to teachings and behavior that Jesus Christ the Master condemns results in a combination of contradictory terms, or, an oxymoron.

A genuine Christian cannot be a homosexual, a bi-sexual, an adulterer, or practice any number of other lifestyles that blatantly contradict the life and teachings of Jesus Christ. Bi-sexual behavior involves homosexual behavior which, along with adultery in general, is one of a number of sinful practices that God condemns in the Bible as abominations.

So, what advice do I have for the bi-sexual who wants to be a Christian? The bi-sexual actually has a real advantage over the homosexual in this matter, for a person who claims to be bi-sexual is comfortable being sexually intimate with either gender. In a sense, that is a real positive factor.

We can look at it in this way: A heterosexual Christian has an unlimited number of possibilities in choosing a life partner, as long as the choice involves one of the opposite gender. Nevertheless, he must go through a process of elimination to come up with the “one and only”. Does this person fall into the category in which God can add His blessing? Is this person also a Christian? Do we share the same rule of faith and practice? Are we mutually attracted to one another? Do we share interests and have significant things in common? Are we socially and culturally compatible? Can we agree upon a locality in which to live? Eventually, the process of elimination results in the “one and only.” And they hope to live happily everafter.

The “Bi-sexual Christian” also has a virtual unlimited number of possibilities for choosing a lifetime companion: Does this person fall into the category in which God can add His blessing? Half of the possibilities can be eliminated based upon gender alone. But that’s all right. If truly Bi-sexual, then the opposite gender is still within play, and the process of elimination continues. Is this person also a Christian? Do we share the same rule of faith and practice? Are we mutually attracted to one another? Do we share interests and have significant things in common? Are we socially and culturally compatible? Can we agree upon a locality in which to live? Eventually, this process of elimination also results in the “one and only.” And they also hope to live happily everafter.

You see? If you are Christian and believe yourself to be “bi-sexual”, then God has a great solution for you. His gift to man is one woman, in marriage. Any sexual activity outside of this marriage is displeasing to Him and not in harmony with being a “Christian”. So, if you are bi-sexual and if God’s plan allows for only one person as a life partner, then why not choose within the opposite gender in which He approves and can add His blessing? Does that not make sense? If you can go either way, or both ways, then why not choose God’s way, His only way? The heterosexual Christian must choose and select down to one and only one person. So, why should the Bi-sexual person get a special allowance to choose one of each…?

In Isaiah 1:18, God Himself says, “Come now, and let us reason together…” He is reasonable. His way makes sense. It is consistent and fair. He designed human sexuality to be a gift to the children He loves. And as the Creator and designer of this gift, it is only logical to acknowledge that His way is best. It is Satan who has perverted this gift in an effort to destroy the home and family and to bring to an end the gift of procreation that perpetuates human life itself. Satan hates humanity, because he hates Jesus the Creator of humanity. Homosexuality results in bringing to an end 6,000 years of procreation, the enlarging of the family of God. But, one questions, what about the same-sex attractions? As a bi-sexual, how do I deal with that?

Regarding the same-sex attractions, God again has given the remedy. He says that “whosoever looketh on a woman (or man) to lust after her (him) hath committed adultery with her (him) already in his heart. In this question, the Heterosexual Christian and the “Bi-sexual Christian” have the same challenge: to not lust after anyone other than your spouse. The straight guy has to take control of lustful thoughts towards women, and the bi-sexual guy has to take control of lustful thoughts towards men. Both straights and bi-sexuals have equal struggles in this area. So, as Christians we are to put into practice the counsel of 2 Corinthians 10:5, “Bringing every thought into captivity unto the obedience of Christ.”

Satan will place tempting thoughts into your mind, but you are to practice rejecting those thoughts and choosing better ones. “Submit [yourself daily] therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7) Avoid tempting situations such as are found in movies, magazines, online pornography, the wrong kind of friends and associations that would lead you down the path of homosexuality, etc. In other words, you need to starve that side of yourself which is displeasing to the Lord and feed the Christian side of yourself. Attend church and prayer meetings, have your daily morning and evening devotionals with Him, spend time in the Bible and in prayer. Surround yourself with good Christian friends and influences. Choose to hang this homosexual thing on the “forbidden tree”, like in the Garden of Eden. Consider it to be forbidden fruit, no matter how pleasing to the eye, to the touch, to the taste, to the smell, realize that it is forbidden by your Creator God who truly knows what is best for you and your life. Learn to not trust your feelings and emotions. They are rarely a trustworthy guide to what is best for you in your life.

So, in conclusion to the “Bi-sexual Christian” I would have to say, If you truly want to be a Christian, then let Christ truly be your Lord and Master. Enter into His school of discipleship. “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 2:5) “Present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.” (Romans 12:1) As a Christian, be a disciple of Christ. Enter into His discipline. Trust Him, and obey Him. For your heavenly Father truly knows what is best for you, for your joy and happiness and fulfillment in this life, as well as in the life to come.

All Power to you!

“Victor J. Adamson”