Question: “How long did it take you to overcome homosexuality?”
Reply: Under great conviction by the Holy Spirit, I chose to walk away from homosexuality, even with all my tendencies still in that direction. In other words, the day after I walked away, I was still just as strongly tempted as the day before. But I had chosen a new path for myself and leaned heavily upon God’s grace (His divine power) to create in me a clean heart and to renew a right spirit within me. It was a process, a process of starving the old and feeding the new. I chose to relocate myself, for I was still very much in love with the man I had lived with for a number of years. I chose to bring every thought into captivity unto the obedience of Christ, in spite of my feelings and emotions. I chose to be careful what I watched, read, listened to, and was careful about where I chose to socialize. Within one year of my baptism, I was married to a lovely young lady I had known since childhood. We now have two wonderful children, ages 11 and 13, a girl and a boy. They are the light of our lives.
I cannot say how long it would take for you or someone else. It depends upon how much effort you put into the process yourself, and how badly you want to be changed. But God’s promise is sure in 2 Corinthians 5:17 that “if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature. Old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” This promise states that a genuine conversion results in new motives, new tastes, and new tendencies. When one is born again he is to overcome every inherited and cultivated tendency to wrong.
Does it mean that one is forever free from temptation? No! Of course, not! Jesus Himself was tempted in all points like as we are yet without sin. He suffered being tempted. He resisted unto blood being tempted, unto death, even the death of the cross. (See Hebrews) Yet He would not yield to temptation. Temptation, my friend, does not define who you are. Temptation defines Satan’s plan for your life. Please do not make the mistake that so many people make in believing that as long as they ever have homosexual temptations they are still homosexual. What matters with God is your choice of direction, your choice of thoughts, your choice of behavior. Your orientation is determined by the direction you choose to go in life, not the direction that Satan wishes you to go.
I write much about this issue throughout my web site and in my book. Please feel free to dig deeper in these resources.
All Power to you!
“Victor J. Adamson”
Response from Questioner: Dear Victor, Thank you for answering my question. I am 18 years old and have decided that I do not want to be a homosexual. You are such an inspiration to me, and when I watched the SET FREE* episode on “It Is Written” it gave me great encouragement. You said that you have praying parents and I am pleased to say that I have praying parents as well. I have not ever acted on my feelings and I thank God that I haven’t.
Like you said, It is not in God’s Word so it is not right…
Thank you so much.
GOD WILL BLESS YOU…
And one day I intend to meet you and introduce you to my wife!!!
My Reply: Thank you, B___, for that inspiring testimony and your encouraging words to me. I am looking forward to meeting you someday with your wife…! But as you are 18, I do hope you will give the “wife” part a little more time, OK? You will be very wise to do so!
God bless you, too, my young friend!
* The “Set Free” episode is one of a four part television series now available on a 2 hour DVD entitled “Compassion Without Compromise”.