I do not believe in self-justification. I do not believe in picking and choosing which aspects of the Bible I follow, though many Christians do. For example, most Christians accept 9 out of 10 of God’s commandments, but reject the 4th commandment dealing with the 7th-day Sabbath as irrelevant, as Jewish, as nailed to the cross, as old covenant, etc., when they don’t believe the same way about murder, stealing, adultery, idolatry and the rest of God’s 10 commandments. (Ex. 20:1-17)

I agree that it is truly sad to see Christians pick and choose which aspects of the Bible they wish to follow, based upon their own biases and prejudices and preferences. John tells us that “sin is the transgression of the law.” (1 John 3:4) And James tells us, “For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. For he that said, Do not commit adultery, said also, Do not kill. Now if thou commit no adultery, yet if thou kill, thou art become a transgressor of the law. So speak ye, and so do, as they that shall be judged by the law of liberty.” (James 2:10-12)

The good news is that Jesus promises new life to those who accept him. He told Nicodemus in that famous night visit, “Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” (John 3:3) Through the apostle Paul God tells us, “And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: (Acts 17:30) And once one does repent He says, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

My friend, The entire plan of salvation is about “starting over,” “second chances,” re-creation, restoration, reconditioning, and reconciliation. God delights in taking that which is broken and re-creating it into what it was meant to be in the first place. Isn’t He amazingly merciful, patient, loving, and understanding?!

When my wife divorced me 27 years ago, I was not a Christian. From there I went into multiple relationships and affairs and civil unions. When I did accept Jesus many years later, I was born again and started a new life as “a new creature.” I was prepared to live the rest of my life in celibacy, but God had a different plan. As a professing Ex-Gay, living singly, I was always under the suspicion of the skeptics. I could not be seen with a man without being accused of still being Gay. I could not be seen with a woman without being accused of impropriety. I was a minister under constant surveillance by the skeptics who believed that people like me could never be changed. The power of God was on trial.

I took my burden to the Lord. He brought my present wife into my life, someone I had known since childhood who knew all about me before “gay” and after “gay” and trusted the power of God to make His children whole. Through our subsequent marriage and through our having children and having a solid, stable Christian home, God is daily demonstrating to the skeptics His power to save the “whosoevers” (homosexuals included), from their sins, not in their sins, and that He can save “to the uttermost.”

I have much remorse for my past, and for all the pain and suffering I then inflicted upon others through my self-centered way of life. However, there is nothing I can do to change the past. And God does not want me to dwell there. He wants me, and He wants you, dear friend, to go forward in newness of life. One of the purposes of salvation from sin is to give hope and courage to others who are tempted to give up in futility.

I agree with you, that divorce and remarriage among Christians is sin. But I hope you can see that when an unbeliever becomes a believer he is given a new lease on life, newness of life, second chances, and grace to succeed where he had previously only met with failure.

God bless you in your endeavor to follow Him and to walk in the light of truth.

All Power to you,
“Victor”