Question: “You know, God loves you for who you are. I am a happy gay man that happens to be so close to God. He’s gotten me through alcoholism, drug abuse and losing my partner to cancer. Most importantly, he’s helped me accept myself for all that I am. We talk every day and I don’t know about you, but I don’t care what anybody else tells me about my relationship with God, I know we’re good. I know that you’re only trying to help people, and I can’t be angry at someone for that, as I’m sure you’re dealing with plenty of criticism. I’m sure that the Lord will see you through this. God Bless, j____”

Reply: Hello, J____:

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your partner to cancer. And I rejoice with you for your victory over alcoholism and drug abuse. The Lord has certainly begun a good work in you. However, from the Bible perspective, Jesus came not to help people accept themselves, but to save His people from their sins. The Lord does not love us for who we are, but in spite of who we are. He died for His enemies, and for strangers, demonstrating His unconditional love that they might turn to Him for saving grace, which is divine transforming power (according to the Greek dictionary). We are not saved from sin by God’s unconditional love; but because of His unconditional love we are saved from sin by His Grace, His divine transforming power.

The plan of salvation is all about transformation, re-creation, new motives, new thoughts, new tastes, and new tendencies. For we read in 1 Cor. 5:17 that “if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature (creation). Old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”

It is never safe to trust our feelings or our own human reasoning when evaluating our stand with Christ. For God tells us through His word in Jeremiah 17:9,10 – “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” Then He answers the question by saying, “I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.”

The only safe way to evaluate our standing with Christ is by stepping up to the mirror, His moral law of 10 commandments. For He says, “If ye love me, keep my commandments.” (John 14:15) And, 1 John 5:2,3 – “By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God, and keep his commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.”

You might also want to consider His warning in Matthew 7:21-23, “Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, (in other words, professing to be Christians) shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you (we don’t have a saving relationship): depart from me, ye that work iniquity.” You see, J____, knowing Jesus and having a good relationship with Him results in allowing Him to transform your life into one of obedience in every area of your life, not just in overcoming alcohol and drugs, but in also overcoming the addiction of homosexuality. If you truly have a good relationship with Jesus, then you will allow Him to truly save you from sin, from disobedience, the result being a life of obedience, living in harmony with His will as expressed in His moral law of 10 commandments.

I know we have a difference of opinion, but as a student of the Bible, God’s Word, I can come to no other conclusion. I know you are happy. But God’s plan for His children far exceeds anything they can think or imagine for themselves.

May you allow Jesus to truly be Lord and Master of your life,

“Victor”