A thought to ponder: “What difference does it make whether one establishes a same sex relationship instead of an opposite sex one as long as the relationship is based upon love and loyalty?”

What about the gay (homosexual) who is loyal to a monogamous relationship, the one who “does not commit adultery” by cheating on his/her spouse, or partner, or significant other? Is he not in harmony with the spirit of the law by being faithful to the one and only love of his life, even though of the same sex?

Before we “law abiding Christians” hasten to shoot down this rationale, we must recognize the question as being very legitimate and worthy of careful examination. Interestingly, the above question happens to reflect the same reasoning as that used by Christians in general who take the same position about other aspects of God’s moral law of Ten Commandments. In order to help the homosexual see the weakness of his stance, his logic, we must first make sure that our own logic on this principle is sound. We must first make sure that we ourselves are standing upon a sure foundation, upon the solid Rock…

Brothers and sisters in Christ, let us be perfectly honest with ourselves on this point. It is easy for us to see the mote in the eye of our homosexual brothers and sisters while we may be looking around a beam in our own. We ask the homosexuals to take an honest look at themselves in the light of eternal realities. On this question, maybe we, too, should make an honest introspective self-check. And before we use our spiritual discernment to analyze and respond to the gay logic in the above sincere and legitimate question, let us make sure that our own logic is sound.

Our loving God invites each of us, “Come now, and let us reason together.” (Isaiah 1:18) This is one of those points upon which He calls for us to reason. So, let us use our God given capacity to think and reason with consistency and follow this line of logic to see where it goes when we apply it to all of God’s Ten Commandments.

Are you ready?

We Christians need to own up to the possibility that we may be responsible for initiating this line of reasoning when it comes to moral rationalization. Has not Christianity in general taken the official position that it doesn’t really matter about God’s law? that He’s really not that particular?

This gay logic, expressed in the above question, is the same used by those who say, and pardon my saying so, but we ourselves must be honest, “Oh, it really doesn’t matter what day of the week we observe as a holy day for worship, just so I keep one out of seven.” Or, we might even say, “Why! I keep every day holy.”

Oh? Really? How can that possibly be?

Now, bear with me on this point for a moment, and let us reason together. If we keep every day holy, are we not like the homosexual who “loves” everyone he has relationships with? The commandment that speaks to this issue, the fourth commandment, does not allow for us to keep every day holy. It commands, “Six days shalt thou labor.” And labor is not a part of God’s holy day, for, “in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son,” etc.

This commandment (found in Exodus 20:8-11) says, “Remember the Sabbath day to keep it holy.” Notice, “the Sabbath day”, one day, one specific day.

It then sets this one, specific day apart from the secular ones by saying, “Six days shalt thou labor, …but the seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord thy God. In it (the seventh day) thou shalt not do any work… For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is.”

Six days the Lord labored in His work of creation. And “Six days shalt thou labor.” You know. Like Father, like son. He wants us to follow His example in all things. He wants us to grow up to be like Him.

Continuing on, “For in six days the Lord made (created, labored)… And rested the seventh day.” Then again the differentiating statement, “Wherefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed it (made it, and it only, holy).”

You see, dear reader, for us to say that it really doesn’t matter on this point of God’s law only adds credence to the logic of the dear homosexual and others who also believe it really doesn’t matter, but on different points of the same law of God.
1) It doesn’t matter who I worship, just so I worship some thing or some body.
2) It doesn’t matter if I bow down to images, as long as they represent the true God.
3) It doesn’t matter if I cuss a little, as long as it is in good humor.
4) It doesn’t matter upon which day I worship, just so long as I do worship.
5) It doesn’t matter if I dishonor my parents, if they haven’t earned my respect.
6) It doesn’t really matter if I kill, if someone really deserves to die.
7) It doesn’t matter if we have premarital sex. We’re going to get married anyway. Or, It doesn’t matter who or what I “marry,” as long as I am loyal to that one.
8) It doesn’t matter if I steal from the rich, as long as it is for a worthy cause.
9) It doesn’t matter if I tell a lie, just so long as it is a “little white lie.”
10) It doesn’t matter if I lust over pornography (covet). It’s private and hurts no one.

Here we should be able to clearly see that if we consistently rationalize that “it doesn’t really matter…,” then the end result of society will some day be total anarchy.

If we as Christians practice and teach that it is OK to live in violation of any one of God’s Ten Commandments, then how can we in all honesty and consistency judge homosexuality to be sin? We must accept the Creator’s definition of sin as “the transgression of the law,” (1 John 3:4), the law of Ten Commandments. And the practice of breaking any one of these Ten Commandments, according to James 2:10, is to be guilty of breaking them all. “For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.”

We Christians will have much more success with helping gays understand the sinfulness of homosexuality, the futility of “gay monogamy,” and how to overcome the same if we ourselves come to understand the simple principle of trusting obedience, and if we are consistent in our own reasoning, logic, faith, doctrine, and practice.

Another important point to consider is that apart from Jesus Christ, according to Romans 7, we cannot keep the law of God, no matter how diligent our efforts. Therefore, gays, even though practicing monogamy, cannot truly be in harmony with the 7th commandment in spirit, in the heart and mind where Christ promises to write it, because they are not in harmony with the will of God. Obedience is more than outward compliance. It is a condition of the heart. Even “monogamous” gays would still have to deal with the temptations of lust, pornography, fantasy, the pull of attractions that only Christ could supply grace (divine strength and power) to overcome. And without submission to His will in this matter, the grace of Christ is unavailable.

Now, you might be thinking at this point that we’re not considering a point of the law of Ten Commandments when discussing the issue of homosexuality, but that we are dealing with one of the “abominations” listed in the Bible. This point is discussed elsewhere. (See Featured Article, “You, Too, Can Be Made Whole” – Part I, #4.)

However, suppose we forget for the moment God’s law of Ten Commandments. Instead, let us just visit the Garden of Eden in the beginning. Two institutions were created there. On the sixth day of the week God instituted Marriage, the ultimate, highest of all relationships possible between any two of His created children. On the seventh day of creation He instituted the Sabbath, a weekly day He set aside for quality time with the children of His creation. It is family day with God, a day for relationship enhancement and growth with Him.

The ever-vigilant enemy of God has labored tirelessly to destroy both of these beautiful relationship institutions since the beginning of time. Homosexuality is nothing less than a breakdown of that sacred institution of Marriage as created and designed by our loving Father.

And what has happened to the Sabbath institution…?

Now that we have done a little self-check to verify the consistency of our own method of spiritual reasoning, let us address the specific question at hand: What difference does it make whether one establishes a same sex relationship instead of an opposite sex one as long as the relationship is based upon love and loyalty – a monogamous one?

Now, suppose we determine gay monogamy to be acceptable as an alternative lifestyle. How many homosexuals could honestly lay claim to monogamy…? How many wait until “marriage” before becoming sexually active? How many wait until commitment before having sexual encounters with prospective lovers? God’s plan does not allow for sex outside of the marriage institution, neither pre-marital nor extra-marital. Most homosexuals tend to shop around sexually before settling into a relationship, therefore, such gay marriages, or unions, even if eventually monogamous, are built upon the sand.

A thought to ponder: “What difference does it make whether one establishes a same sex relationship instead of an opposite sex one as long as the relationship is based upon love and loyalty?”

What about the gay (homosexual) who is loyal to a monogamous relationship, the one who “does not commit adultery” by cheating on his/her spouse, or partner, or significant other? Is he not in harmony with the spirit of the law by being faithful to the one and only love of his life, even though of the same sex?

Before we “law abiding Christians” hasten to shoot down this rationale, we must recognize the question as being very legitimate and worthy of careful examination. Interestingly, the above question happens to reflect the same reasoning as that used by Christians in general who take the same position about other aspects of God’s moral law of Ten Commandments. In order to help the homosexual see the weakness of his stance, his logic, we must first make sure that our own logic on this principle is sound. We must first make sure that we ourselves are standing upon a sure foundation, upon the solid Rock…

Brothers and sisters in Christ, let us be perfectly honest with ourselves on this point. It is easy for us to see the mote in the eye of our homosexual brothers and sisters while we may be looking around a beam in our own. We ask the homosexuals to take an honest look at themselves in the light of eternal realities. On this question, maybe we, too, should make an honest introspective self-check. And before we use our spiritual discernment to analyze and respond to the gay logic in the above sincere and legitimate question, let us make sure that our own logic is sound.

Our loving God invites each of us, “Come now, and let us reason together.” (Isaiah 1:18) This is one of those points upon which He calls for us to reason. So, let us use our God given capacity to think and reason with consistency and follow this line of logic to see where it goes when we apply it to all of God’s Ten Commandments.

Are you ready?

We Christians need to own up to the possibility that we may be responsible for initiating this line of reasoning when it comes to moral rationalization. Has not Christianity in general taken the official position that it doesn’t really matter about God’s law? that He’s really not that particular?

This gay logic, expressed in the above question, is the same used by those who say, and pardon my saying so, but we ourselves must be honest, “Oh, it really doesn’t matter what day of the week we observe as a holy day for worship, just so I keep one out of seven.” Or, we might even say, “Why! I keep every day holy.”

Oh? Really? How can that possibly be?

Now, bear with me on this point for a moment, and let us reason together. If we keep every day holy, are we not like the homosexual who “loves” everyone he has relationships with? The commandment that speaks to this issue, the fourth commandment, does not allow for us to keep every day holy. It commands, “Six days shalt thou labor.” And labor is not a part of God’s holy day, for, “in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son,” etc.

This commandment (found in Exodus 20:8-11) says, “Remember the Sabbath day to keep it holy.” Notice, “the Sabbath day”, one day, one specific day.

It then sets this one, specific day apart from the secular ones by saying, “Six days shalt thou labor, …but the seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord thy God. In it (the seventh day) thou shalt not do any work… For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is.”

Six days the Lord labored in His work of creation. And “Six days shalt thou labor.” You know. Like Father, like son. He wants us to follow His example in all things. He wants us to grow up to be like Him.

Continuing on, “For in six days the Lord made (created, labored)… And rested the seventh day.” Then again the differentiating statement, “Wherefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed it (made it, and it only, holy).”

You see, dear reader, for us to say that it really doesn’t matter on this point of God’s law only adds credence to the logic of the dear homosexual and others who also believe it really doesn’t matter, but on different points of the same law of God.
1) It doesn’t matter who I worship, just so I worship some thing or some body.
2) It doesn’t matter if I bow down to images, as long as they represent the true God.
3) It doesn’t matter if I cuss a little, as long as it is in good humor.
4) It doesn’t matter upon which day I worship, just so long as I do worship.
5) It doesn’t matter if I dishonor my parents, if they haven’t earned my respect.
6) It doesn’t really matter if I kill, if someone really deserves to die.
7) It doesn’t matter if we have premarital sex. We’re going to get married anyway. Or, It doesn’t matter who or what I “marry,” as long as I am loyal to that one.
8) It doesn’t matter if I steal from the rich, as long as it is for a worthy cause.
9) It doesn’t matter if I tell a lie, just so long as it is a “little white lie.”
10) It doesn’t matter if I lust over pornography (covet). It’s private and hurts no one.

Here we should be able to clearly see that if we consistently rationalize that “it doesn’t really matter…,” then the end result of society will some day be total anarchy.

If we as Christians practice and teach that it is OK to live in violation of any one of God’s Ten Commandments, then how can we in all honesty and consistency judge homosexuality to be sin? We must accept the Creator’s definition of sin as “the transgression of the law,” (1 John 3:4), the law of Ten Commandments. And the practice of breaking any one of these Ten Commandments, according to James 2:10, is to be guilty of breaking them all. “For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.”

We Christians will have much more success with helping gays understand the sinfulness of homosexuality, the futility of “gay monogamy,” and how to overcome the same if we ourselves come to understand the simple principle of trusting obedience, and if we are consistent in our own reasoning, logic, faith, doctrine, and practice.

Another important point to consider is that apart from Jesus Christ, according to Romans 7, we cannot keep the law of God, no matter how diligent our efforts. Therefore, gays, even though practicing monogamy, cannot truly be in harmony with the 7th commandment in spirit, in the heart and mind where Christ promises to write it, because they are not in harmony with the will of God. Obedience is more than outward compliance. It is a condition of the heart. Even “monogamous” gays would still have to deal with the temptations of lust, pornography, fantasy, the pull of attractions that only Christ could supply grace (divine strength and power) to overcome. And without submission to His will in this matter, the grace of Christ is unavailable.

Now, you might be thinking at this point that we’re not considering a point of the law of Ten Commandments when discussing the issue of homosexuality, but that we are dealing with one of the “abominations” listed in the Bible. This point is discussed elsewhere. (See Featured Article, “You, Too, Can Be Made Whole” – Part I, #4.)

However, suppose we forget for the moment God’s law of Ten Commandments. Instead, let us just visit the Garden of Eden in the beginning. Two institutions were created there. On the sixth day of the week God instituted Marriage, the ultimate, highest of all relationships possible between any two of His created children. On the seventh day of creation He instituted the Sabbath, a weekly day He set aside for quality time with the children of His creation. It is family day with God, a day for relationship enhancement and growth with Him.

The ever-vigilant enemy of God has labored tirelessly to destroy both of these beautiful relationship institutions since the beginning of time. Homosexuality is nothing less than a breakdown of that sacred institution of Marriage as created and designed by our loving Father.

And what has happened to the Sabbath institution…?

Now that we have done a little self-check to verify the consistency of our own method of spiritual reasoning, let us address the specific question at hand: What difference does it make whether one establishes a same sex relationship instead of an opposite sex one as long as the relationship is based upon love and loyalty – a monogamous one?

Now, suppose we determine gay monogamy to be acceptable as an alternative lifestyle. How many homosexuals could honestly lay claim to monogamy…? How many wait until “marriage” before becoming sexually active? How many wait until commitment before having sexual encounters with prospective lovers? God’s plan does not allow for sex outside of the marriage institution, neither pre-marital nor extra-marital. Most homosexuals tend to shop around sexually before settling into a relationship, therefore, such gay marriages, or unions, even if eventually monogamous, are built upon the sand.

But still, there are those who sincerely believe that it really does not matter who, or what, they marry as long as they stay faithful. Others don’t bother to commit through marriage at all. They justify a sexual relationship simply on the basis of being “lovers,” or upon having a “meaningful relationship,” or upon being “sexually fulfilled,” or upon a commitment to one another regardless of gender, etc. Such relationships outside the favor and blessing of the Creator of marriage quite often end up on the rocks as lovers get traded in on newer models, not much unlike divorce and remarriage in the heterosexual lifestyle, which God also hates, according to Malachi 2:15,16. However, the incidents of turnover among homosexuals are quite a bit higher than among heterosexuals.

But at what point should the line be drawn for “meaningful relationships?” God’s standard is for the union of one man with one woman, for life:
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave (stick fast; adhere; be faithful) unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24, in Eden)
“And [Jesus] answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain (the two of them) shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain (two), but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” (Matthew 19:4-6)

If we do not accept this standard of our Creator, then what should be the criterion for sexual behavior? Upon what basis do we even make a standard? Should it be left up to our own feelings and emotions? If not, then whose standard do we accept? Who has the right to set this standard? Would it not be the Creator of sexuality Himself?

If homosexual relationships are to be looked upon as an acceptable alternative lifestyle, by what authority do we accept this standard outside of marriage as created and designed by God? And where then are the boundaries to be placed for other acceptable relationships beyond gays and lesbians? What about men/boy relationships? What about pedophiles with consenting children? What about incest? How far down do we go if we do not accept an authoritative standard? – God’s authoritative standard?

God says, “Thou shalt have no other gods before me.” (Exodus 20:3) May I suggest that whoever is allowed to set our standards, besides our Creator God, has then assumed a higher position of authority than God whose standard we ignore? Does he not then become another god before the true God…?

What’s wrong with Gay Monogamy?

The Creator of sexuality and marriage simply says, “No.”

All Power to you!

“Victor”