Question: “As a Christian, what can I do to help a lesbian friend? Can your book help and how can we encourage her to read it?”
Reply: Two things I tell people to do for their loved ones who are leading sinful lives and who are not open to counsel:
1) Pray. Pray without ceasing in intercession for them that the Lord will do whatever it takes to get their attention. He cannot force the will, but rather respects the power of choice He has given to each one of His children. But He can bring circumstances around to where the loved one must face eternal realities.
Pray that He will lead someone across their path that they will be able to relate to and listen to.
Pray that He will give you wisdom and discernment and understanding, that you yourself may be more effective in influencing them for good.
2) Love them unconditionally, both in word and in deed, or action. I truly believe that homosexuals are people who are looking for love in all the wrong places. They need to know that they are loved, even in their sins. Jesus loves the sinner with an infinite love, but He hates the sin. We, too, can demonstrate Godly, unconditional love without condoning the sinful lifestyle. “The strongest argument in favor of the gospel is a loving and lovable Christian.” (My favorite author)
3) Perhaps I can throw in a third point. You must also, in your own life, Demonstrate joyful Christianity. You may be the only Bible someone else may ever read… What are they reading in you…? We Christians should be the happiest, most joyful, most content people in the world. The Bible tells us to “in every thing give thanks” (1 Thessalonians 5:18), to “Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say, Rejoice.” (Philippians 4:4) The loved ones we see that are steeped in lives of self-destruction and degradation need to see in us something and everything they don’t have and that they would really desire — the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, longsuffering (patience), gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance. They need to see in us an assurance, stability, a “Rock of Gibraltar”, an unwavering loyalty to Christ and moral principles. This they cannot help but respect and admire. Perhaps someday, they will desire to have the same in their own lives.
4) Now you’ve got me going, and I’m on a roll here. Trust in the Lord. God loves your loved ones even more than you. After all, He gave His only-begotten Son for a ransom to “purchase” that loved one back for Himself. In the face of that infinite love, we need to place our trust in Him and place our loved ones into His hands.
Regarding my book: The last chapter of my book is entitled, “You, Too, Can Be Made Whole!” (It is also posted on the web site under Featured Articles) It is a step-by-step process I believe the Lord led me through in order to give me victory at last. I enumerated these steps and expounded upon them, because the Lord was successful in using them with me. Yes, I do believe the book could be very helpful in reaching your friend. That’s why I wrote it. To successfully share it, you should first read it yourself. Then you will know what you are offering her, and you will be able to introduce it better having read it yourself. If it is a blessing to you, introduce it that way. “I have come across the most amazing book! I started reading this man’s story and couldn’t put it down! You’ve just got to check this out…!” (Actually, this is the feedback I get from some people. So that’s not too far fetched a suggestion.)
All Power to you as you continue to reach out to the wayward,