Comments: Greetings Victor,
I am a gay man who is about to celebrate his 10-year anniversary with his partner. He and I have one adopted son who is now 6 and is the love of my life. We’ve had ups and downs, but we are generally very happy with each other and with the life we have, and we aim to be together until we are old and gray for the purpose of our son being happy and successful.
“My question for you is: Am I on the right path? If not, then what do I need to do to get on the right path?”
Reply: Thank you for your note and your question. Many times Jesus answered questions by asking questions in return. Perhaps that method will work here as well. In Isaiah chapter 1 God said, “Come now, and let us reason together…” So, let us try here a little consistent line of questioning and reasoning and see where God leads… And please know that I go this route out of a sincere concern and Godly love for you who are honestly seeking truth about your situation and your destiny. I must share with you, however, that sometimes a life-saving medicine may be found in the form of a “bitter pill”, even though administered with inestimable love, occasionally referred to as “tough love”.
To determine whether or not you are on the “right path” we must first determine your destination. Where are you wanting to go? Do you have a road map to guide you successfully to your destination? If you do have a road map, who wrote out the instructions for you? Is the one who has given you directions from point A to point B trustworthy? The road he has directed you to travel may be filled with all kinds of adventures, and pleasures, and excitement, and self-gratification, and ups and downs, and general happiness. And you may have been directed that you can expect to travel down that road until you are old and gray and that your adopted son will end up being happy and successful as he travels with you. But are you certain that you will find at the end of that road your expected destination…? Is the one who has directed you down this “right path” the same one who died for you in order to provide for you eternal life? Or, could it be possible that the one directing you down this “right path” is the same one that told Eve in the Garden of Eden, “Thou shalt not surely die…”? You might want to check out this story in Genesis chapter 3.
If your destination is “eternal life with Jesus Christ our Lord”, then you might want to make sure that He is the author of your road map. After all, He has said, “Enter ye in at the strait gate (no pun intended…): for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.” (Matthew 7:13, 14)
In other words, it seems as though the masses of the world are getting their road maps from an impostor, the one who slyly promises, “Ye shall not surely die…” While believing and trusting that they are on the “right path”, they are in fact on the broad way that leads to eternal destruction in the end, though they feel very good about it all along the way.
Jesus has told us, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.” So, if we want to stay on the “right path” we must make sure we keep our eyes upon Him. Yes? He is our example in life and our substitute in life and in death, as long as we are willing to pattern our lives after His. We are told in Revelation that they that are with Him in heaven are the called, the chosen, and the faithful. In order to follow Him wherever He goes in eternity, we must first learn to follow Him in life here on earth.
Jesus has promised to guide us constantly along the narrow way, (for it is easy to lose one’s footing if attempting to go it alone). “And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.” (Isaiah 30:21)
He has promised to work in us to will and to do of His good pleasure, and that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. (See Philippians 2:13; 1:6)
When asked, “What shall I do to inherit eternal life?” Jesus confirmed the tempting lawyer in his answer that we are to love God supremely and our neighbor as ourselves. Elsewhere He said, If ye love me, keep my commandments.
To the same question, he reminded the rich young ruler that he was expected to live in harmony with the law of God, the ten commandments. The young man turned away sorrowful, because in his efforts to keep all ten commandments, he did not really love God supremely.
When the jailor of Philippi asked Paul and Silas, “What must I do to be saved?” the answer was given, “Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…”
“Lord” refers to “Jehovah”, the self-existent, eternal God. “Jesus” means Savior. And Jesus came to save His people from their sins, (Matthew 1:21), not in their sins. “Sin is the transgression of the law.” (1 John 3:4) “Christ” means the Anointed One.
In other words, what Paul was saying was this: Believe on the self-existent, eternal God, who is the anointed Savior from sin, and thou shalt be saved. This is the same God who has listed homosexuality as one of many abominations throughout the Bible and has offered to save His people from homosexuality as well as from any other sin. Why? For the wages of sin is death, eternal death.
You see, friend, the broad way, which to many seems to be the “right path”, is in reality the path that leadeth to destruction, eternal death. But the gift of God is eternal life, and it is the narrow way which leadeth unto this eternal life. The path of loving obedience is the “true path”, this narrow way.
The apostle Paul speaks of those who perish at the end of their perceived “right path”; “because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness.” (2 Thessalonians 2:10-12)
So, you ask if you are on the “right path?” Do you want the truth…? Do you love truth…? Are you willing to follow the Way, the Truth, and the Life in loving obedience to all of His 10 commandments, regardless of the sacrifice and the consequences…? “Through all ages, and in all nations, those who believe that Jesus can and will save them personally from sin are the elect and chosen of God, His peculiar treasure. The obey His call. They come out from the world, and separate themselves from every unclean thought and unholy practice.”
My friend, if you are truly honest with yourself and with your God and genuinely love His truth, “Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free… If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” (John 8:32, 36)
All Power to you!